The meeting is about to finish. The usuals are already covered.
Progress. Next steps.
Then your manager shared the news with excitement. “We would like you to fill the senior role in our team. I cannot think of a more capable person than you.” She went on to say that it took her a long time to convince the senior managers.
It was good news, for sure. It usually brings a smile and an easy thank you.
This time, something felt different. The space also felt more quiet.
Your response came after a longer pause. You thanked her and said you’d get back to her, taking a moment before finishing the sentence.
The meeting ended. The screen returned to the report you were drafting, but attention didn’t. Reading the same line three times.
Where is the excitement?
Shouldn’t there be some kind of gratitude here?
Why does this feel difficult?
This is the kind of opportunity that’s supposed to matter. The role sounds manageable with some interesting parts and this is the type of stretch that could bring some growth.
But the thought shifts to time. Evenings that are already full. Time with family. The studies that already started. Those responsibilities don’t show up in the role that is being considered, but are very much present in your day-to-day reality.
If you turn this down, how will you be perceived at work? Does this say anything about ambition? Will there ever be a consideration for another role in the future? Saying yes would mean something else has to move. What’s even the right way to say no?
Maybe this isn’t only about how to respond.
What is this opportunity asking you to take on beyond the role?
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